One of my
favorite things to do these days is tackle questions that clearly have no right
answer. I also thoroughly enjoy using my
0 hours of Philosophy and Psychology background to speak authoritatively on
questions where both disciplines would be extremely beneficial.
So given I’m
admitting there really isn’t a right answer and I have no formal training in
how to think about it, why do I feel the need to write about why some people
are never satisfied?
Simple…this
question spans nearly all aspects of life from jobs to relationships to
athletics and I was a bit perplexed when I didn’t feel satisfied after my solid
race performance last weekend.
We’ve all
been there. You’ve got a good job that
you’re satisfied with overall, but wonder whether you should start the business
that’s been in the back of your mind.
Maybe you’re dating someone and things are going well but you’re not
sure how well things should be going
before you’re ready to pop the question.
Or maybe you
just finished a Sprint Triathlon and met your goal of finishing in the top 15%
but somehow that didn’t make you feel satisfied. That’s the situation I’m in and I’ve started
to wonder why…
After all, I
set out as part of Schmeis35for35 to finish in the top 15% in a Sprint Tri and
I finally did it. Shouldn’t I feel
great? I just accomplished another one
of my goals and I’m now up to 7 out of 35 complete.
On the
surface, it seems I should feel extremely satisfied but I found any hint of
satisfaction lasted only a few seconds and quickly turned to disappointment
that I didn’t do even better.
Let’s walk through
a summary of my race and then revisit the satisfaction question.
The Swim
It all
started with a short 250 yards in a pool.
As always, participants were asked to submit their 100 meter swim time
so that race organizers could seed everyone from fastest to slowest and prevent
log jams created by slower swimmers.
The seeding
process is great in theory but ridiculous in practice. The basic problem is that racers don’t have an
incentive to tell the truth; they only have an incentive to make sure they don’t
get stuck behind a slower swimmer. As a
result, I find that many people blatantly lie about how fast they swim just so
they don’t get stuck behind slow pokes.
Of course,
the downside of lying doesn’t impact the swimmer who lies but instead impacts
all the other swimmers who get held up. These
people are the worst…it’s like the clueless people boarding airplanes that
stand in the middle of the aisle and don’t realize they’re holding up the
entire plane from boarding.
I was seeded
62nd out of 420 based on the time I submitted.
Just before the start, person #60 said to me “hey man, you look like you’re
really fast. I’m worried you may catch
me.” I asked how fast he expected to
swim the 250 yards and he said 4:15 which was literally 40 seconds slower than
what I expected to go. He then said he
exaggerated a bit when submitting his time.
No dude, you didn’t exaggerate…you lied your ass off.
Anyway, at
7:30am the race started and the #1 seed swimmer was released followed every 12
seconds by the rest of the field one at a time.
After the first 61 people, it was finally my turn and I went out blazing. At the 60 yard mark, I already passed the
person in front of me who started with a 12 second lead. By the 125 yard mark, I passed the idiot who told
me I looked fast. Keep in mind, this
Michael Phelps wannabe started 24 seconds before me. He was basically swimming
in the middle of the lane making it difficult to go by but I essentially just
swam over him.
By the end,
I had passed 3 people when the whole purpose of the seeding process is to avoid
the need to pass anyone. I exited the pool
in 3:40 and crossed the timing mat a few seconds later at 3:55. It’s completely ridiculous that I had to pass
3 people over a swim that was less than 4 minutes long.
I think they
should penalize racers retroactively on their overall time if they don’t swim
within a range of the time submitted.
Maybe this would clean up the issue.
Anyway, my swim
time ended up being 40th fastest of the day out of the 420 racers
but would have clearly been even better if I didn’t have to maneuver my way
around the liars.
The Bike
After a
quick run through the transition area, I threw on my sunglasses, helmet, and
biking shoes and took off. I absolutely
hammered on the bike. My legs felt
really strong and I was in attack mode for the entire 14 miles of the ride. Here's a pic:
The first
half of the course was into the wind and slightly uphill but I was still
cruising. I saw riders ahead of me and I
was determined to make up time and pass them.
One by one I started catching the leaders in front of me and then
blowing right by.
As I approached, I was
talking out loud to myself in pure meat head style saying things like “this
dude better be in good shape or I’m going right by.” A few seconds later when I closed the gap and
made the pass, I would say things under my breath like… “You may want to hit
the gym.” Clearly, I’ll do anything to
motivate myself.
I’m not sure
why, but I love the feeling I get when passing someone and acting as if I’m not
even working that hard. It demoralizes
them but makes me smile. Sometimes I
like to say “good job” to people as I pass.
They don’t know I’m being sarcastic.
By the end
of the ride, I had passed more than 25 people and hadn’t been passed once. I ended up going 37:33 for a 14 mile bike
ride…averaging 22.4 miles per hour which was good for 28th fastest
out of the 420 on the day.
My time for the
bike was by far my best ever for that distance so there’s no doubt my 4-5 hours
per week of cycling are paying off. Based
on my crazy improvements, I’m half-expecting the US Doping Agency to press
charges against me…
The Run
I hopped off
the bike, put on my running shoes, and off I went on the run. I knew I was having a great race and only had
a 5k run standing between me and my goal of a top 15% finish overall. I studied the course online before the race
(if you remember, some dude told me to go the wrong direction on the run last
time) so I was sure nothing like that would happen again.
I started
out the first mile at about 7:50/mile pace thinking I would turn it on at the
end. One by one though, people from
behind started catching up and going by.
I wasn’t running that slowly but there were clearly some really strong
runners who were sustaining better than 7 minute / mile pace. I wanted to go faster but my legs wouldn’t
allow it. I basically kept my pace
through the whole 5k but never had the kick at the end I was hoping for.
I finished
the run in 24:35, a 7:55/mile pace but only 138th best time of the
day…pretty weak performance by me on the run for sure.
The Proof
Overall, my
time for the entire race was 1:08:42, which was 52nd out of 420 and good
enough for top 12.4% so I made my goal of top 15%.
Just to get
the proof out of the way, below is a link with the official race results. If you remember, for each of the 35 goals I
achieve, I either need video evidence, a link to official race results, or a
witness. For triathlons, the easiest is
to just post the official results so here you go:
Back to the Question
I almost
forgot why I started this post…I was supposed to write about why some people are
never satisfied. I’ll offer up 4
potential explanations and then see which apply to why I didn’t feel satisfied
with my performance.
Explanation 1: The goal was set too easy, so never felt like
an accomplishment when achieved
The race on
Saturday was my 6th Sprint Triathlon. Check out the results:
As you can
see, before I started Schmeis35for35, I had only cracked the top 30% overall
once in a race. Given that, setting a
goal of top 15% was fairly aggressive so I’m pretty sure the goal wasn’t too easy.
I’m going to rule this out.
Explanation 2: A subset of the performance caused the dissatisfaction
This one
clearly played a part in how I felt.
While I was pleased with the bike and swim, my run was terrible. I have yet to put a complete race together
where I felt like I was at the top of my game in all 3 sports.
Sometimes in
life, it’s easy to focus too much on the 1% of things not going right and not
enough on the 99% of things that are going really well. I’m definitely guilty here.
Explanation 3: The act of accomplishing a goal changed your
mind about what’s possible and therefore what would make you satisfied.
Have you
ever thought how happy you would be if you could just land a certain job, move
to another house, make a certain amount of money, etc.? What usually happens? For me, I find that once I get there I
continue to need more to feel satisfied.
What I thought would make me satisfied is no longer good enough once I
get it. I thought top 15% would be great
but once I was able to do it, my perspective changed.
The irony with
this is the only way to improve is to not be satisfied but the only way to be
happy is to stop and enjoy what you have.
Explanation 4: Some people get enjoyment from reaching the
goal while others gets enjoyment out of constantly being on the journey.
I’m
convinced some people won’t be satisfied with any destination. These types of people may think they’ll be
satisfied when they reach a certain point, but they’re really only happy when
they’re on the move…the journey is what keeps them going.
The great
philosopher Miley Cyrus sums this up well… “There's always gonna be another
mountain. I'm always gonna wanna make it move. Always gonna be an uphill battle,
and sometimes I'm gonna have to lose. It ain't about how fast I get there,
Ain't about whats waiting on the other side. It's the climb.”
That was so
awesome…I just quoted a Miley Cyrus song.
By the way, that video literally has like 200 Million You Tube views. Unreal.
Summing it Up
Quick
thought experiment: Do you know people
that seem more satisfied than you? If
yes, would you trade lives with any of those people?
If you’re anything
like me, you may think some others appear more satisfied but you wouldn’t trade
places with any of them. That’s a pretty
interesting thought which makes me wonder if the real question/answer is
something much deeper…
Does
everyone even have the capacity to be fully satisfied?
Schmeis